You are 35-45 Single woman in Hong Kong? You are reading this article because you are afraid that you will never get married. No, this article is not about the ration of men and women in Hong Kong. This article is about how women take the opportunities of getting married away without even knowing it!

The biggest mistake women in Hong Kong do is having those fantasies that hinder you from finding The One. 

Fairytale Relationship. The first reason is that you dream about fairytale relationhsip full of  passion and struggling…something like Twilight. Well it does not work in real life. If the man is not pursuing you, he doesn’t want you!

You keep dating a man that is not going to marry you. And you know it! He is not a “vapire” who cannot marry you because you are a “human”. We are not in fairytale, my dear! GET OUT OF THIS RELATIONSHIP! He is not going to commit!

Learn more: Why he does not want to commit!

Another example, you have a crash on your coworker. You feel he is attracted to you.  You think he is too shyto ask you out for a real date….and you’ve been waiting for two years for him to ask you out because you two are secretly in love. And finally he does ask you out! Sis, if it has been two years and he has never asked you out, DON’T waste your precious time!

Dream Man. Another reason you will never get married!  You want him to look like Bred Pitt, have a Ph.D., make millions, be around 40, never married, no kids, spiritual like a prist in your local church!  Come on!  And even if he has no kids and never married, makes millions, is kind and spiritual as a prist in your local church, but also LOOKS LIKE a prist in your local church, you don’t want to date him because he is not handsome enough.

Princess Syndrome. You have huge demands to men and a long list of characteristics you want him to have, but do you have at least half of them yourself?!  Are you really that spiritual? You never play games? You are just as beautiful as Angelina Jolly?  So why should he want you?

This is another issue hindering you from meeting a future husband.  You think you are better than you are. Maybe you were that much desirable when you were 20, but now?   Take a good at yourself.  Do you need to improvement to meet a man of your dreams? And will you be able to fight off all the other beautiess that would be chasing him?

You’re Are a REAL Princess. OK.  So you really look and act like a princess NOT the fake one.  You know what qualities you are looking for in a future husband and you deserve to man you desire. But no man can come close to you because you are better!!!! You’ve tried speed dating, matchmaking, online dating but you are still alone. Well maybe you just turned down some nice guys because the FAIRYTALE prince is not coming? Don’t wait to long, maybe he will never show up! Noone is perfect in this world.


Whether you have just one or all of the above issues, there is always a hope!  If you now realize you’ve been living in a dream world and there is a room for improvement, get out and change you life, your attitude!  You were looking for a dream man, but now you see he may not be a prince and neither are you!

As a matchmaker, I can tell you that so many really nice guys, come to me searching for a good woman.  So he wears an H&M T-shirt!  I know he can afford Hugo Boss if he wanted, but you don’t know that – you judge him by his H&M T-shirt because you’r wearing LV.  So what if he doesn’t care about fashion and expensive brands? So what if you like dining at Amber and he likes street food? He will take you to Amber if you mention that it’s your favouritr restaurant. Just because you ate hot dogs this Saturday it doesn’t mean he is poor, or is a bad person and is not worth a second date.   Give him  3 dates. You might learn that he is more serious than you thought, that you have a lot in common and he is a great guy that is looking to get married. And maybe to you!




  1. Emilie Lau // April 24, 2014 at 12:48 pm //

    Victoria, I read yr article and got very upset. I think I have ALL those syndromes:( How to change? U know?

  2. Hi Emilie, it’s a long talk, but I will try to write next article about this issue. Also feel free to email me. Victoria

  3. Sammael Rizal // May 1, 2014 at 12:18 pm //

    Every woman dreams of finding that perfect man, the hard part is turning those dreams into reality. There is no way to guarantee that you will find him. Be honest with yourself about your faults, you need to meet someone who will find your faults minor and forgivable but prize your strengths.

  4. Justin Pereira // May 1, 2014 at 12:26 pm //

    If you’re looking for a 100% perfect man, you will never find him. So be quick to forgive those little mistakes or annoying habits that don’t matter, and hopefully he will overlook your imperfections too.

  5. Naldo Souza // May 1, 2014 at 12:36 pm //

    Forget the myth of finding the man who completes you or makes you whole; you should already feel like a fulfilled, well-rounded being, whose life will be improved by the presence of the right man, but not completed.

  6. Amber Chou // May 1, 2014 at 12:40 pm //

    A long long time ago when I was still single, I dreamed of the perfect partner for me. I was very picky. I had a list a mile long and I had the belief that one day I would meet him. At the time, when I dated someone new I’d think “Is this the one?” but I usually knew the answer. NO! At one point, I had a few broken hearts in a short period of time and decide to focus on what I wanted not on what I got.

  7. Emilia Pavlova // May 1, 2014 at 12:47 pm //

    The single worst mistake that many women make is looking for Mr. Right. If you expect perfection, then you’ll be too picky to be able to see whether the man in front of you is right for you after all.

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